Misinformation has surrounded the female orgasm for decades. From the incorrect notion that
vaginal lubrication originates from the cervix (it doesn’t, it originates from two pea-sized glands near the
entrance to the vagina called the Bartholin’s glands).
To Cosmopolitan magazine making a public apology in 2020 about championing the G spot back
in the early 80s when actually,
it doesn’t exist [1]
It’s little wonder The Big O is surrounded in mystery.
Even where the female orgasm originates from is contested. Vaginal
penetration or external clitoris stimulation? The simple truth is that there
are no distinct ‘vaginal’ orgasms and ‘clitoral’ orgasms. Just orgasms. Plain
and simple.
However, there isn’t anything remotely plain or simple about
the female orgasm. It’s far from two minutes of vaginal penetration with a
penis, fingers or a traditional penis-shaped sex toy, which has long been the
view of the female orgasm, though the lens of a male-centric vision.
In fact, it had previously been posited that an inability to
achieve orgasm through “enough penetrative thrusting through intercourse to
simulate the clitoris” was a sign of female sexual dysfunction. Thrusting?
However, there isn’t anything remotely plain or simple about
the female orgasm. It’s far from two minutes of vaginal penetration with a
penis, fingers or a traditional penis-shaped sex toy, which has long been the
view of the female orgasm, though the lens of a male-centric vision.
Social media ‘two pumps and a squirt’ memes might serve to
make women feel part of a club that they can roll their eyes at and go off to
the bathroom to ‘sort themselves out’.
But is this really empowering? Should we make jokes about
simply shrugging off a poor sexual experience that’s focused on male pleasure
and the male orgasm, leaving women unsatisfied or having to fake it?